It’s a sad reality that extramarital affairs are common in our society. In fact, statistics show that around 40 percent of married couples struggle with infidelity. In most cultures around the world, extramarital affairs are not allowed. They are considered a form of cheating, which is considered wrong. But more than that, there are negative repercussions associated with cheating. Your family and relationships will be affected, and the people involved may suffer emotionally, mentally, and even sexually.

It is said that men are more likely to cheat. But in this day and age, even women cheat on their spouses. In most cases, men resort to cheating for sexual gratification while women do so in a bid to have their emotional needs met. The truth is, there are many reasons why people engage in extramarital liaisons. It’s important to understand the root cause of cheating so couples can address marital problems. In the next section, we’ll discuss five of the major reasons why married people cheat.

Previous Cheating

It has been said that once a person cheats, they will most likely cheat again. A recent study was conducted to justify this claim, and it revealed that those who cheated on their spouses were three times as likely to do so again. While this isn’t a golden rule, but chances are once you’ve cheated, it may be easy for you to cheat again, especially if you weren’t caught. As they say, “once a cheater, always a cheater.”

Personality Disorders or Psychological Issues

Studies also show that people with psychological issues are more likely to cheat. Psychological issues, such as strong narcissistic traits can cause people to engage in extramarital affairs. The same is true with personality disorders, such as narcissistic personality disorder or antisocial personality disorder. With narcissism, chances are these individuals are driven by ego and a sense of entitlement. They may be self-centered and have a lack of empathy. Attachment issues and intimacy disorders may also result in extramarital affairs. People with poor self-esteem and plenty of insecurities unconsciously resort to cheating as a way to prove their worth.

Childhood Issues

Childhood issues may also lead to extramarital affairs. This may have to do with a history of childhood trauma, such as sexual, physical or emotional abuse or neglect. Cheating happens when these individuals have not addressed the trauma and have unresolved issues. To meet their emotional and psychological needs, they may end up cheating. Also, exposure to infidelity in childhood may make people more likely to cheat. In fact, a recent study shows that children whose parents had affairs are twice as likely to have affairs of their own in the future.

Sex Addiction

Sex addiction can be an alarming marital issue. Some people may have a high sex drive. Worse is, they may be diagnosed with sexual addiction. Chances are if they aren’t satisfied with their partners, they may turn to someone else. They may even have multiple sexual partners just so they can fulfill their sexual cravings. In most cases, they no longer have control over their impulses, which may cause problems in their relationships and lives in general.


Cheating or extramarital affairs can be attributed to something as simple as boredom. Chances are bored men or women may want to spice up their lives by cheating. They look for the thrill of the chase and the passion associated with newfound love. They do not do this to replace their partners, but to add excitement to their relationships. In some cases, they may have fallen out of love or lack a matured understanding of love and marriage.




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